Video 1

I went to a "meet the teacher BBQ" and their mother was selected as a "volunteer". I have noticed that my ex has been using the school volunteering system to feed her own emotional needs. I have mentioned this to the principle and suggested that we should share time at the school so the boys would not feel that "Mommy loves us more than daddy". My ex wife was in the school at the back of the class for most of Kindergarten, in most of the days for volunteering in Grade 1 and was in every Friday for grade 2. After many meetings I was finally able to be in the class as a volunteer in grad 2 from February to schools end in June. (I enjoyed it as did the other kids). Maybe being a man makes this difficult but I have noticed that School volunteering is a "clicky" thing that is more interested in the parent social aspect than the ability to be involved with your kids! I will admit that not many fathers have the time as I do since I am self employed in a seasonal business. Parent alienation is a big problem along with her competing with me for the boys love. We have been separated for over 5 years now and "coaching the kids" has been a constant problem.Please see the next 4 videos that show her "volunteering" followed by the a pick up that I have not experienced like this in 4 years. In some cases a separated spouse has the void of her ex husband filled by their children....at their expense. This has caused some self esteem and confidence problems as a result. Video 5 shows this pick up.

Video 2

This video shows the mother continuing to use the children for her own emotional well being and in my opinion a "improper relationship" with our son. I have mentioned to the principle on many occasions that the school is a forum for the children's educational process rather than a opportunity to continually feed her own emotional needs. My son tries to continually kiss her on the lips like a boy friend girlfriend would do. I do not see this as sexual but most certainly in appropriate. Parent alienation is certainly another situation but what surprises me is that the school has her in constantly and ignores my please to be able to be part our children's educational process. I have had several meetings and phone conversations over this since November of 2005, it took many meetings and phone calls to be offered the same rights as my ex wife. (I signed the same volunteer documents as she had). Personally I believe this school is an exception,  I will add that there have been 3 other principles that I have talked to about this with the same result from this school. I have volunteered in the past with other schools with children that were attending that were not even my own without any problems or discrimination. To have parent alienation from the mother and have the school also alienate a parent is very upsetting. 

Video 3

Video 4 (4:20pm)

We are trying to leave the "meet the teacher day" and leave in the car - 1

Video 5

We are trying to leave the "meet the teacher day" and leave in the car - 2. In this video you can clearly see how my ex does not run the show! I believe she was more interested in showing her emotional bond in front of my girlfriend of 4 years than anything else (I think she envies the fact that another women is helping in the parenting process). 

Video 6

This is a video of one of my sons not doing what is required at school because he told his mother he was "not feeling well". I dropped him off at the school 2 hours previously and he was fine. He is using "not feeling well" to get out of doing many things that he should be doing. The entire class did this and he is not the shyest student in his class by a long shot! He knows "how to play mom" and it is impeding on his schooling. I will add that he did not go to a sleep over with his brother just recently and claimed the same thing. I believe this attachment parenting is bringing down his confidence and self esteem? 

I do not think the mother is aware of the long term effects of catering to the kids needs all the time. (personal maid). I know she does this out of love but does not understand how the boys could end up as teenagers if this continues. The mother has had self esteem problems in the past along with bulimia before we meet in 1996.

Please give me your thoughts.

                                                          
Volunteering Kindergarten - 2003

Volunteering Grade 3 - 2006
(These picture and above videos were taken over a 45 minute period)

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